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    <loc>https://www.shivani.co/essays/dei-by-accident</loc>
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    <loc>https://www.shivani.co/essays/equity-work-is-a-living-ecosystem</loc>
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    <lastmod>2024-02-15</lastmod>
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  <url>
    <loc>https://www.shivani.co/essays/at-the-intersections</loc>
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    <lastmod>2024-02-15</lastmod>
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      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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  <url>
    <loc>https://www.shivani.co/essays/the-intersections-of-barbie</loc>
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    <lastmod>2025-10-17</lastmod>
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      <image:title>essays - the intersections of Barbie - Make it stand out</image:title>
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  <url>
    <loc>https://www.shivani.co/essays/an-equity-practice</loc>
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    <lastmod>2024-02-15</lastmod>
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  <url>
    <loc>https://www.shivani.co/essays/hello-again</loc>
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    <lastmod>2024-02-15</lastmod>
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      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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  </url>
  <url>
    <loc>https://www.shivani.co/essays/kissing-roses</loc>
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    <lastmod>2024-02-15</lastmod>
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      <image:title>essays - kissing roses - Make it stand out</image:title>
      <image:caption>azaleas in full bloom at the New York Botanical Garden</image:caption>
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  <url>
    <loc>https://www.shivani.co/essays/a-garden-of-self</loc>
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    <lastmod>2025-10-17</lastmod>
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      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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  </url>
  <url>
    <loc>https://www.shivani.co/essays/chai-with-zia-03</loc>
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    <lastmod>2025-08-12</lastmod>
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      <image:title>essays - chai with zia ep. 03: intimacy is embodied - Make it stand out</image:title>
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  </url>
  <url>
    <loc>https://www.shivani.co/essays/the-shades-of-rest</loc>
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    <lastmod>2024-02-15</lastmod>
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      <image:loc>https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62114ab1fba0972dd1714a2d/76d343b9-4b89-49dd-9311-deaf411d103b/8915d0ed-e78e-4612-9ef3-858f01003a66_4032x3024.jpeg</image:loc>
      <image:title>essays - the shades of rest - Make it stand out</image:title>
      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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  </url>
  <url>
    <loc>https://www.shivani.co/essays/an-intuitive-fabricscape</loc>
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    <lastmod>2025-10-17</lastmod>
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      <image:loc>https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62114ab1fba0972dd1714a2d/d0f1d411-aedf-4f2d-a265-6a5030c3adaa/f250c9bd-77af-4ff8-ad63-27efff86db2b_2506x2504.jpeg</image:loc>
      <image:title>essays - an intuitive fabricscape - Make it stand out</image:title>
      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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  <url>
    <loc>https://www.shivani.co/essays/a-practice-of-making</loc>
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    <lastmod>2025-10-17</lastmod>
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      <image:loc>https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62114ab1fba0972dd1714a2d/eba6be5c-e1d3-444d-83a1-d103598dad84/213e9dbf-9bde-49b6-a15b-b8a41556a87d_1167x794.jpeg</image:loc>
      <image:title>essays - a practice of making - Make it stand out</image:title>
      <image:caption>my first few stitches, learning to knit with my dadi.</image:caption>
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      <image:title>essays - a practice of making - Make it stand out</image:title>
      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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      <image:loc>https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62114ab1fba0972dd1714a2d/d4ad649c-a617-44f1-951a-8d3d426cc268/1b7ad57e-ea90-43c2-bc53-c4eadd3ca91c_3840x2160.png</image:loc>
      <image:title>essays - a practice of making - Make it stand out</image:title>
      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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  <url>
    <loc>https://www.shivani.co/essays/a-secret-story</loc>
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    <lastmod>2024-02-16</lastmod>
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      <image:loc>https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62114ab1fba0972dd1714a2d/13cff570-7901-49be-b638-00d79c790627/319c7a77-22f9-4ba7-b7b1-4a4a5b22ce16_2688x3517.jpeg</image:loc>
      <image:title>essays - a secret story - Make it stand out</image:title>
      <image:caption>a self portrait, one of a series in my own exploration of intimacy.</image:caption>
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  <url>
    <loc>https://www.shivani.co/essays/unfinishing-school</loc>
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    <lastmod>2024-02-16</lastmod>
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      <image:title>essays - unfinishing school - Make it stand out</image:title>
      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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      <image:title>essays - unfinishing school - 1:1 equity coaching</image:title>
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  <url>
    <loc>https://www.shivani.co/essays/joy-is-the-most-vulnerable-emotion</loc>
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    <lastmod>2024-02-16</lastmod>
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      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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  <url>
    <loc>https://www.shivani.co/essays/what-comes-next</loc>
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    <lastmod>2024-02-16</lastmod>
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      <image:title>essays - what comes next - Make it stand out</image:title>
      <image:caption>go to Trader Joe’s, pick a color palette, buy three bunches for $3 each, arrange in a pitcher, and put them in a sunny window.</image:caption>
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  <url>
    <loc>https://www.shivani.co/essays/chai-with-zia-02</loc>
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    <lastmod>2025-08-12</lastmod>
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      <image:title>essays - chai with zia ep. 02: slow quiet soft season - Make it stand out</image:title>
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  </url>
  <url>
    <loc>https://www.shivani.co/essays/cloth-as-container</loc>
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    <lastmod>2025-10-17</lastmod>
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      <image:title>essays - cloth as container - Make it stand out</image:title>
      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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  <url>
    <loc>https://www.shivani.co/essays/how-to-recover</loc>
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    <lastmod>2024-02-16</lastmod>
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      <image:loc>https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62114ab1fba0972dd1714a2d/390848d0-81dd-43ef-bfed-db544c7f5e69/4fb8a9d7-2b5f-4415-8ca5-662a0e9c1d1d_4032x3024.jpeg</image:loc>
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      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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      <image:title>essays - how to recover - Make it stand out</image:title>
      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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  <url>
    <loc>https://www.shivani.co/essays/easing-in</loc>
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    <lastmod>2024-02-16</lastmod>
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      <image:title>essays - easing in - Make it stand out</image:title>
      <image:caption>a crescent moon sunset, shot outside a hospital.</image:caption>
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  <url>
    <loc>https://www.shivani.co/essays/a-bitter-woman</loc>
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    <lastmod>2024-02-16</lastmod>
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      <image:title>essays - a bitter woman - Make it stand out</image:title>
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  <url>
    <loc>https://www.shivani.co/essays/how-to-stay-warm</loc>
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    <lastmod>2024-02-16</lastmod>
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      <image:loc>https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62114ab1fba0972dd1714a2d/862aa332-02aa-4ee7-a3f8-95c58ab6dcf0/1cfa1b62-44e4-4ad5-9c3b-49f42002ba47_3784x3024.jpg</image:loc>
      <image:title>essays - how to stay warm - Make it stand out</image:title>
      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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  </url>
  <url>
    <loc>https://www.shivani.co/essays/an-intimacy-with-death</loc>
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    <lastmod>2024-02-16</lastmod>
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      <image:loc>https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62114ab1fba0972dd1714a2d/96b29a5f-395e-4ae6-8415-672dc35d0271/d797eabe-b99c-446a-b80c-3911a6af6b77_2601x2592.jpg</image:loc>
      <image:title>essays - an intimacy with death - Make it stand out</image:title>
      <image:caption>a photo of a watercolor and ink painting of an anatomical heart, detailed with gold and overlaid with a sprig of calendula. the artist is my dear friend Kathy Bentley; the painting was a cherished birthday gift.</image:caption>
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  <url>
    <loc>https://www.shivani.co/essays/crip-time-is-soft-and-tender</loc>
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    <lastmod>2024-02-16</lastmod>
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      <image:title>essays - crip time is soft and tender - Make it stand out</image:title>
      <image:caption>for me, crip time meant lots of gentle making time.</image:caption>
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  </url>
  <url>
    <loc>https://www.shivani.co/essays/chai-with-zia-01</loc>
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    <lastmod>2025-08-12</lastmod>
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      <image:loc>https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62114ab1fba0972dd1714a2d/1708111753864-LFPXIHU4WX8LC6IU3LKW/557F33E7-73CC-4726-840D-4A7425495A29.jpg</image:loc>
      <image:title>essays - chai with zia ep. 01: rest isn't always gentle - Make it stand out</image:title>
      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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  </url>
  <url>
    <loc>https://www.shivani.co/essays/discipline-as-care-care-as-discipline</loc>
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    <lastmod>2024-02-16</lastmod>
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      <image:title>essays - discipline as care, care as discipline - Make it stand out</image:title>
      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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  </url>
  <url>
    <loc>https://www.shivani.co/essays/introducing-chai-with-zia</loc>
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    <lastmod>2025-08-12</lastmod>
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      <image:title>essays - introducing: chai with zia - Make it stand out</image:title>
      <image:caption>image credit: the delhiwalla</image:caption>
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  </url>
  <url>
    <loc>https://www.shivani.co/essays/femme-fatigue</loc>
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    <lastmod>2024-02-16</lastmod>
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      <image:loc>https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62114ab1fba0972dd1714a2d/4c081ba3-40c8-4032-b2e1-372ac3464f60/02fc3a48-96f2-41a0-a15d-8e3fa6b233eb_750x770.jpg</image:loc>
      <image:title>essays - femme fatigue - Make it stand out</image:title>
      <image:caption>image credit: @softcore_trauma, h/t Stephanie Tillman</image:caption>
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  </url>
  <url>
    <loc>https://www.shivani.co/essays/the-craft-of-a-home</loc>
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    <lastmod>2025-10-17</lastmod>
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      <image:loc>https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62114ab1fba0972dd1714a2d/82b0e614-2644-425c-a602-a7a347de18b7/8b92ad6c-26f1-4c63-a501-60dca39a9b16_750x904.jpg</image:loc>
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